Self-mastery practices are the need to invest in yourself through reflection, learning, and taking care of your wellbeing. Self-mastery starts with you having your own emotionally intelligent relationship with yourself and others. You understand how Emotional Intelligence supports Relationship Intelligence, Social Intelligence, and the systems that you interact with.
A core of Self-Mastery creates the platform for effective use of all the other competencies of the Agile Coaching Growth wheel. The level of your self-mastery will influence your potential in the other competencies. To achieve self-mastery you must focus on:
Emotional Intelligence
When we grow our Emotional Intelligence we have access to improved mental health, greater job performance and more effective leadership skills.
Self-Awareness – Know yourself; know your impact. Gaining a fundamental understanding of yourself, your personal cultural beliefs and biases, your strengths and weaknesses, your skills and knowledge, and your values. These are a prerequisite for knowing the impact you have in any situation.
Self-Regulation – You are able to regulate your emotions and your energetic field in a conscious way. This gives you the ability to choose how you show up, and shift in the moment when necessary and to hold appropriate boundaries.
Systems impact – You have the ability to understand your impact, determine if it differs from your intention, and fluidly change the way you show up in order to achieve the desired impact. The ability to understand when you have transgressed a boundary, and the skill to repair the relationship.
Competency Level Definitions:
1 Beginner
- Identify major emotions, such as happy, sad, angry in self and others.
- Aware that people have their own values and a belief systems.
- Able to regulate some emotional states or behaviors.
- Understand that you can attain self-regulation.
- Aware of the concept of systems, and that you as an individual, are part of a system and that teams exist in a larger system.
2 Advanced Beginner
- Recognize a larger set of more nuanced emotional states.
- Aware of some of your own values and beliefs.
- Demonstrate an understanding when self-regulation is not happening.
- Control your emotions and behavior to achieve a specific impact.
- Describe some self-regulation techniques that can lead to more successful outcomes.
- Understand common systems that exist in organizational structures.
- Identify positive and negative impacts that may occur when the systems interact.
- Recognize when a system is out of alignment, and know that the system may need assistance in resolution.
3 Practitioner
Self-Awareness
- Recognize and name your own emotional state at any given time.
- Recognize that you have blind spots, and begin to identify them.
- Identify most of your own values and beliefs.
Self-Regulation
- Choose your own response in most situations.
- Able to match your emotional state to the energetic field in some cases.
- Plan in advance for some complex scenarios.
Systems Impact
- Understand systemic values and the impact of your values on the system.
- Recognize complex issues within single systems, and work to resolve some
Recognize the impact of systems within systems (i.e. teams within a department), and is able to work to align those in a healthy way.
4 Guide
- Understand and anticipate your own triggers.
- Understand your own values system and be aware that it is at choice about whether to live by them or not.
- Regulate your emotions and energetic field in a conscious way in most situations.
- Choose how you show up, shift in the moment when necessary, and hold appropriate boundaries.
- Assess systems intuitively and know what the best course of action is to take in any given situation.
- Understand clearly the difference between your own intention and impact, and know when they differ.
5 Catalyst
- Know yourself deeply and are aware of your emotional state at any given moment.
- Choose intentionally whether or not to live your values and beliefs.
- Shift your emotional state at will.
- Choose how to respond in any given situation.
- Understand the breadth of ways to lead, and choose the appropriate stance in the moment.
- Work with systems to help them evolve.
1 Beginner
2 Advanced Beginner
3 Practitioner
4 Guide
5 Catalyst
- Identify major emotions, such as happy, sad, angry in self and others.
- Aware that people have their own values and a belief systems.
- Able to regulate some emotional states or behaviors.
- Understand that you can attain self-regulation.
- Aware of the concept of systems, and that you as an individual, are part of a system and that teams exist in a larger system.
- Recognize a larger set of more nuanced emotional states.
- Aware of some of your own values and beliefs.
- Demonstrate an understanding when self-regulation is not happening.
- Control your emotions and behavior to achieve a specific impact.
- Describe some self-regulation techniques that can lead to more successful outcomes.
- Understand common systems that exist in organizational structures.
- Identify positive and negative impacts that may occur when the systems interact.
- Recognize when a system is out of alignment, and know that the system may need assistance in resolution.
Self-Awareness
- Recognize and name your own emotional state at any given time.
- Recognize that you have blind spots, and begin to identify them.
- Identify most of your own values and beliefs.
Self-Regulation
- Choose your own response in most situations.
- Able to match your emotional state to the energetic field in some cases.
- Plan in advance for some complex scenarios.
Systems Impact
- Understand systemic values and the impact of your values on the system.
- Recognize complex issues within single systems, and work to resolve some
- Recognize the impact of systems within systems (i.e. teams within a department), and is able to work to align those in a healthy way.
- Understand and anticipate your own triggers.
- Understand your own values system and be aware that it is at choice about whether to live by them or not.
- Regulate your emotions and energetic field in a conscious way in most situations.
- Choose how you show up, shift in the moment when necessary, and hold appropriate boundaries.
- Assess systems intuitively and know what the best course of action is to take in any given situation.
- Understand clearly the difference between your own intention and impact, and know when they differ.
- Know yourself deeply and are aware of your emotional state at any given moment.
- Choose intentionally whether or not to live your values and beliefs.
- Shift your emotional state at will.
- Choose how to respond in any given situation.
- Understand the breadth of ways to lead, and choose the appropriate stance in the moment.
- Work with systems to help them evolve.
Balance
Taking time for yourself and seeking balance, learning how to integrate all parts of your life in a healthful way. It’s also important to be aware when you are out of balance and be able to re-balance when needed. Balance encompasses understanding your physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. It also incorporates the intersection of work and play, and the cultivation of supportive structures, communities, and interests in your life.
Competency Level Definitions:
1 Beginner
- Recognize the various aspects of your life that require energy and attention.
- Understand that at times you may be out of balance, but may not know how to achieve balance.
- Contrast dysfunctional behaviors versus healthy behaviors.
2 Advanced Beginner
- Creates some healthy boundaries.
- Build close personal supportive structures.
3 Practitioner
- Understand the intersection between work and play, and how to move between them.
- Recognize when you are out of balance quickly and regain balance.
- Build a wider support system, which may include professionals or organizations in addition to personal support.
- Understand when you have transgressed a boundary and are able to make the repair with the other party.
4 Guide
- Balance all areas of life consistently, including work, play, family and community, physical health, and spiritual or emotional work.
- Recognize immediately when you are out of balance, and are able to recover on their own or with the help of support systems.
- Hold professional and personal boundaries appropriately, and is in congruence with all professional ethical guidelines.
5 Catalyst
- Live in balance with grace.
- Impact others through their presence.
1 Beginner
2 Advanced Beginner
3 Practitioner
4 Guide
5 Catalyst
- Recognize the various aspects of your life that require energy and attention.
- Understand that at times you may be out of balance, but may not know how to achieve balance.
- Contrast dysfunctional behaviors versus healthy behaviors.
- Creates some healthy boundaries.
- Build close personal supportive structures.
- Understand the intersection between work and play, and how to move between them.
- Recognize when you are out of balance quickly and regain balance.
- Build a wider support system, which may include professionals or organizations in addition to personal support.
- Understand when you have transgressed a boundary and are able to make the repair with the other party.
- Balance all areas of life consistently, including work, play, family and community, physical health, and spiritual or emotional work.
- Recognize immediately when you are out of balance, and are able to recover on their own or with the help of support systems.
- Hold professional and personal boundaries appropriately, and is in congruence with all professional ethical guidelines.
- Live in balance with grace.
- Impact others through their presence.
Personal Transformation
Be the change you want to see by modeling the transformation you want others to experience. Valuing and investing in your own personal growth through reflection, seeking, learning, and the integration of all you have learned. You also work with peers, mentors, or coaching supervisors to accelerate your skills and mastery. You understand that your transformational journey is never complete.
Competency Level Definitions:
1 Beginner
- Recognize that you may benefit from learning new skills and growing your competencies.
- Create a clear understanding of where you have growth opportunities, and may seek help from others.
2 Advanced Beginner
- Learn from others who have skills or abilities that you desire for yourself.
- Invest in personal growth, through education, mentorship, introspection, etc.
3 Practitioner
- Recognize that personal transformation is an ongoing activity that has no end.
- Engage a mentor, and may mentor others.
- Aware of your growth opportunities.
- Aware that transformation impacts not just what you know, but also who you are.
4 Guide
- Weave personal growth and transformation into your daily life.
- Integrate being and doing.
- Assist others on their own transformation journeys, through mentoring and coaching.
5 Catalyst
- Live the change you want to see in the world.
- Impact others through your presence.
1 Beginner
2 Advanced Beginner
3 Practitioner
4 Guide
5 Catalyst
- Recognize that you may benefit from learning new skills and growing your competencies.
- Create a clear understanding of where you have growth opportunities, and may seek help from others.
- Learn from others who have skills or abilities that you desire for yourself.
- Invest in personal growth, through education, mentorship, introspection, etc.
- Recognize that personal transformation is an ongoing activity that has no end.
- Engage a mentor, and may mentor others.
- Aware of your growth opportunities.
- Aware that transformation impacts not just what you know, but also who you are.
- Weave personal growth and transformation into your daily life.
- Integrate being and doing.
- Assist others on their own transformation journeys, through mentoring and coaching.
- Live the change you want to see in the world.
- Impact others through your presence.